I feel that Chesley's use of the word "Diagnosis" is excessive.

What medical qualification or experience do you have to medical
sounding "diagnosis"?

Josh has obviously spent a lot of time very closely following any
activities of certain individuals with a consuming passion though
though.


The fact that he is so focused any activities that these individuals
do rather than issues on the domain industry, whether medically
diagnosable or not,  is evidence of a consuming obsession with certain
individuals.


The following extract demonstrates the very close resemblance of
Josh's activities and a stalker.  The stat on "370,000 men are stalked
annually -- one in 45 men." , combined with the part that the stalker
doesnt have to know the person well makes me think that Josh's
activities probably do fall into the category of a stalker though.

A stalker isn't just someone who follows an ex partner.

Whilst I severely doubt Josh would do this, perhaps he could clear
himself of both being a stalker and / or obsessive compulsive at once
with a psychiatrist's  dignosis.



Jim


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Extract Taken From :

Mind of a Stalker: Why Torment Someone?
Stalkers are lonely and lack self-esteem, yet they feel very, very important.

By Jeanie Lerche Davis

Reviewed By Michael Smith

It seems to be the price of celebrity: The stalker. Catherine
Zeta-Jones has received threatening letters from a stalker who is
infatuated with her husband. David Letterman has lived with it for
years. What motivates these stalkers, and how dangerous are they?


According to the National Center for Victims of Crime, 370,000 men are
stalked annually -- one in 45 men. More than 1 million women are
stalked every year; about one in every 12 women will be stalked in her
lifetime.


Origins of Stalking


Stalking is about inducing fear, says Brook Zitek, DO, a
forensic psychiatrist at Temple University School of Medicine in
Philadelphia. "It's repeated boxes of candy, clothing, showing up at
your house, putting things through your mail slot, notes on your car


The overwhelming majority of stalkers are men -- four to one, Zitek
says. Psychiatrists have developed several stalker profiles:


The resentful stalker. These are self-righteous, self-pitying people
who may threaten, but they are the least likely to act on it.

The intimacy-seeking stalker. Often they focus on someone of higher social
status. This person is mentally ill and delusional.

The incompetent. This person is socially backward.

The predator. The stalker doesn't necessarily know the victim.

The rejected and predatory stalkers are most likely to assault their
victims, says Zitek.


"They wear a mask of charm, they're the kindest,
nicest people. You wouldn't know what's really going on. You only
become aware when clues of their behavior show up -- when your email
provider locks you out because you've logged your password incorrectly
too many times, for example."


"The stalker is usually an isolated and shy person, one who lives
alone, lacks any type of important intimate relationship -- not just
sexual, but friends or family, too, there's also
a narcissistic personality disorder and very low self-esteem. The
stalker feels that they're the most important person in the world."


Many people stalk someone they have only met briefly -- someone they
don't really know, or barely know. The stalker may also focus on a
celebrity, especially if they've seen him or her in person -- at a
public appearance like a concert. "They develop convoluted thoughts
about this person. They feel this person is the answer to their
dreams," says Moore.


Stalkers write countless letters or emails to their victims, begging
for attention.

They secretly follow the victim, either by car or in
an insidious way -- by getting access to the victim's email.


When to Be Concerned

The attraction phase

The anxious phase, when the controlling behaviors show themselves

The obsessive phase, where stalking takes place

The destructive phase


"Unless a stalker wants to change, you can't stop them, they will only
change when their world around them starts
crashing around them."


Here's something else to consider: Are you a stalker? If you see this
obsessive pattern in yourself, see a therapist or join a support group
like Co-Dependents


 It's important for them to reach out. But they also have to reach in -- admit
something is going on, get to a therapist or support group so they
don't feel all alone."


Published July 29, 2004.

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